There's people out there who are like, "Your magical practice needs ROUTINE it needs DISCIPLINE you need to REACH YOUR HIGHEST POTENTIAL AND MAXIMIZE YOUR RESULTS!!!" Like I dunno how else to break it to ya, but that's just magical grindset/toxic workout culture mentality ya got going on there.

Re: the "Cultural Christianity" discourse?

This is repackaged Protestant Work Ethic brain poisoning that needs to be unpacked.

I feel like this goes along with the Christian mindset of “deity/deities are always watching you.” “They know every bad thing you’ve done”

Nope. They’re busy doing their own thing, and most of the time they let you go about your business as usual. They listen when you reach out or give offerings, but they didn’t mock you when you stubbed your toe on the door jam for the third time today.

If I told of all the women killed in America this year by a husband or boyfriend, the book you are holding would be four thousand pages long—and the stories would be stunningly similar. Only the names and a few details would change... Spousal homicide is the single most predictable serious crime in America.

The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker

Wow! Here’s something incredibly personal.

This is Good Bi Gender. A comic I made to express some feelings I have about my gender. I don’t really have that much else to say about it. Here it is.

[Image Description: A digital comic made with sharp, angular abstract lines and only the colors white, blue, pink, and black. The featured character is all white, except for facial features and hair colors, which changes from panel to panel. The comic reads: Cover Panel: The text “Good Bi Gender”, the words colored with the trans flag. It shows a glitchy person’s face, half pink and half blue. Panel 1: White text reads: “Hello. My name is apparently irrelevant. And my pronouns are he/him and she/her. But you can’t call me she/her. And here’s why.” Someone with a half-pink and half-blue shirt looks to the side. One eye is covered with hair, and the other eye is pink while the iris is blue.

Panel 2: The character sits happily, imagining facial hair and a masculine voice. “I don’t want top surgery. I love my chest. And I dream about being on testosterone someday soon.” The character looks at a phone, frowning. The phone shows the male symbol with an “X” through it. Text next to it reads: “People don’t seem to think that the features I dream of are very pretty though… Or they think even worse of them than that…”

Panel 3: The character’s features are all pink, and sits in a blank frame. The character reaches over to a blue frame, frowning. “I don’t like the animosity. I really despise it.” A photo of the character shows an all-blue frame and blue hair, with pink outlines and facial features. “To be a boy… I aspire to be one. I aspire to be masculine in all its handsomeness. All its prettiness.” Panel 4: The character sits in an all blue panel, but reaches back out to the pink panel. “And I’m still a girl too. I was so excited to have both. To love both. To have handsome femininity. Beautiful masculinity.” The frames break and connect, and pink and blue swirl together. The character smiles in between the frames, with one pink eye and one blue eye. “So excited. And yet I get asked…”

Panel 5: Two hands hold out two different pills to the character, one blue and one pink. They ask “Male? or Female?” using the male and female symbols.The character, facial features an array of pink and blue, looks between the two hands, distressed. “It’s both! I’m both! They’re not opposites. Not narrow boxes. I say I’m both despite the insistence that I can’t be. And I know what I look like. I know I look like a girl to most. I know that if I say people can call me she, that’s all I will get from most. Because it’s “easier”. It “makes more sense”. To have my masculinity, I am often forced to be unflinching in it and it alone. To never use she. Because if I don’t, I will never get to have he.” [The words “she” and “he” are italicized.] Panel 6: Text reads: “I’m still very happy to be so comfortable in my identity. To know, despite all that, that I am indeed a boy and a girl and both. But you know. Telling people to only use he/him for me. Guarding my masculinity all just to have it. All at the expense of the part of me who is happily and unashamedly a girl.” The character cries from one pink eye, the other hidden. The character holds a pink girl in a sea of blue, the girl crying out. In the midst of the blue, text reads: “Well, it fucking breaks her heart.” End ID]

Edit: @starberry-skies wrote an ID for the comic, so I added it to the og post with its permission!

"Steve Irwin of Los Espookies" gets me every time.

Everyone may *think* they hate country music, but when Jolene, Before He Cheats, Take Me Home Country Roads, or Life is a Highway comes on, everyone is suddenly a liar.

I know this is a funny post but

There are a few major points in Country Music’s history that got the entire genre labeled as ‘annoying’

  • Post 9/11 nationalism
  • A term that I couldn’t make up “Bro-Country” which intensifies themes of booze, objectifying women, and partying that were present in past decades but not to such an extent
  • This is Gospel Music But With an Accent

Now looking at the songs op listed there is

  • A woman pleading to another woman
  • A woman wrecking a shitheads life
  • A guy loving the scenery of where he lived
  • A song that could easily be mistaken for a number of other genres

But it is easier to say that one hates country while privately enjoying select songs than explain why one doesn’t like the current market oversaturated with our nation’s problems of nationalism, sexism, and so on

see also jhonny cash/willie nelson era songs which were deeply emotional stories often about painful and deep subjects. prison, loss of loved ones, hard labor, facing despair, passion. ‘ghost riders in the sky’ and the like are also deeply satisfying as they bridge more into folklore then ‘murica fuck yeah im sponsored by bud light yall’

another example- ‘midnight in montgomery’ where hank williams junior sings about the ghost of his father

“ … And felt the wind die down,
And a drunk man in a cowboy hat,
Took me by surprise,
Wearin’ shiny boots, a nudie suit, and haunted, haunted eyes,
He said: “Friend, it’s good to see you,
It’s nice to know you care”
Then the wind picked up and he was gone,
Was he ever really there?

‘Cause when the wind is right,
You’ll hear his song,
Smell whisky in the air,
Midnight in Montgomery,
He’s always singin’ there, “

the reason we ‘hate country’ is because we know its supposed to have FEELING and its infuriatingly absent now

70s country - bluegrass traditional

80s country - power ballads

90s country - pop crossover

00s country - white supremacy

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it’s about the folkloric story-telling tradition of oppressed poor folks vs marketable capitalistic ass-kissing.

Yes. So much yes. See Dolly Parton and Wille Nelson and Johnny Cash sing about something real and they mean it and they are amazing. Modern country with some rare exceptions doesn’t start with something meaningful to say, it analyzes the market trends to figures out what will sell and then they do that. That or it just plain caters to white nationalists.

But there’s some damn good country out there. It’s just crowded out by utter garbage written and performed by sell-outs.

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Can confirm.

“Curses” by The Crane Wives is a great song, and I legitimately have trouble singing along to it because I choke up at a couple lines.

…though I do tend to listen to it at 125% speed.

Oh I love that song!

Colter Wall and Corb Lund also understand the assignment! Dig Gravedigger Dig; Horse Soldier, Horse Soldier; The Devil Wears a Suit and Tie; Sleeping on the Blacktop: all bangers. Even Poor Man’s Poison, who got really popular for a minute via memes, consistently puts out good songs because they mean something!

I have new music added to playlists now

I would like to add a recommendation for my close personal friend and amazing musician, the First Lady of Queer Country, Cindy Emch aka the Secret Emchy Society.

people who have "dni if an exclusionist in any way. also dni if ur a mspec lesbian tho ^-^" like thats exclusion babe. you are an exclusionist.

this is your reminder that if you're going to be posting spiderverse gifs / clips you NEED to tag them as flashing, eyestrain, etc.

seizures can kill. the lives of your disabled friends and followers are more important than a movie.

also, do NOT tag them as epilepsy, seizure, photo-sensitivity, etc. people use these tags to find other people like them. by putting them in these tags you are endangering them.

what i would like to know is why weekends are still not three days long

koroke:
“i love my fantrolls so fucking much
”

i love my fantrolls so fucking much

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File under: even more blatant proof cis people can joke about trans people without it being at their expense

People are so convinced that people with personality disorders (and particularly cluster b disorders) are inherently abusive that the idea that we could be victims of abuse is incomprehensible to them

The pursuer is obsessed with getting a response and the victim becomes obsessed with making the harassment stop. What the pursuer is really saying is “I will not allow you to ignore me.”
He’ll push buttons until one provokes a reaction, and then as long as it works, he’ll keep pushing it. Guilt is usually first, then harassment, then insult... When victims participate in this process, threats are not far behind...
It isn’t over until all participants are out of the ring, and as long as people try to change the pursuer or satisfy the pursuer, it goes on... Most people who refuse to let go are highly predictable. It is perhaps too glib to say they continue until they stop, but that is basically what happens in the vast majority of cases—unless they are engaged.

The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker

“This is a tapestry I made myself! I just finished it!” 

“…. this is…. big.”

“Eighty feet long, ten high, in forty panels! It was originally going to be sixty feet, but then the Thomas Malory Arthuriana got big and I had to put more stuff in.” 

“… Malory published in the fifteenth century.” 

“Do you have any idea how long it takes one person to embroider eight thousand square feet of tapestry?” 

“You’ve had a lot of free time in the last eight hundred years, haven’t you?” 

“Not once I took up embroidery as a hobby, no!” 

“Want to see my stalagmite cultivation work?”

I’m concerned when people seem to be incapable of conceiving that a character can have a good heart while occasionally being a jerk, selfish, hypocritical, unfair, unreasonable, hurtful, etc etc because last I checked, that’s what real people were like

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